OD I can only speak for myself, I have tried to get proof and it has alluded me for various reasons. I did NOT speak of my encounters for quite some time because of this, so I do get it. Certainly if the topic would come up I would advocate that SSq were/could be real but would not breach into my encounters. I could see how others reacted when the topic came up so I felt better served to keep my mouth shut. Everyone is a little different but for me it may hearken back to my faith and I will not go into detail , but something my sister used to always tell me... lil Bro there will come a day when the truth is the truth between just you and your creator, and there will be no clear way to show others the truth. I always held onto that when I was going through all of this. However over time I began to accept that I may never be able to prove what happened to me and found that, for me, in the end it really did not matter so much anymore..but I confess that there is a part of me that does want vindication, I cant help it, I am human and I receive some of that from those who have been where I have been and its as simple as that.
I would simply ask anyone who has had encounters to remember back before they did and what they thought of those who made those claims. I mean that is a period we can all relate with, unfortunately those who have crossed the threshold to having an encounter can never go back nor explain it in a way that is satisfactory to the non indoctrinated. What we have to be careful of in my opinion is classifying folks into collectives and then stereo typing that collective. When I was younger and didn't have much life experience or wisdom (not that I have a whole lot now) I used to feel like if I didnt know about it or if it didn't happen to me it must not be valid...well I have also learned over time is that many times when I make such judgments within my limited understanding of things I may just be picking my next lesson. So to coin another great phrase I try today to make my words and observations more sweet and tasty for tomorrow I may have to eat them.
I want to add that no amount of understanding,training or other life experience can adequately prepare a person for a SSq event or series of events. I think where many get into trouble is that most of their life they were taken on their word and when they have this happen and begin to experience someones questioning or disbelief , many times the individual does not have any reference point on how to deal with such things.