Hi susi!
I know I've said this before, but I just HAVE to say it again. Your fear is totally misplaced. You are simply fearing an unknown.
Over 700 kidnappings happen every day in the US. The lion's share occurring in urban areas. Are you having talks with your kids about when they're at the park, at the mall, going to and from school, the movies, grocery store?
Not to add any add'l fear in your life, but your husband is more likely to abduct your kids than a BF is.
This is a big ol' goofy world we live in, and you should not be worried about BF in the way you are.
LOL! Dmaker! How come you didnt' mention the Type 7 - Cowfoots? They're udderly terrifying!
Actually, I think that thermalman has taken some footage of one.
:-)