Georgerm, I've always loved that story about the three blind men and the elephant, too. I often think of it when reading the posts on this forum.
As for what I said back there a ways, I stand by it. Every perspective IS valid, for the holder of the perspective. Being afraid IS a choice, just like every emotion is. We've all seen people react completely differently to the exact same thing. One person might laugh; another might cry. Those two people are making different choices. Once upon a time, a similar situation made them laugh (or cry). So when something similar presents itself again, the brain quickly searches the memory banks to find out how they reacted the last time, so they can "pick" an emotion that "matches". We're not always conscious of doing that -- it happens really quickly -- but it IS a choice.
If our reactions, thoughts, and feelings were not under our control -- if they really sprang from something in our external circumstances, instead of from something in us -- then we'd all have the exact same responses to everything.
So the question becomes, why do people choose fear? Why do they let it sit in the driver's seat? It is the place of least clarity; the least helpful response. In a genuine emergency, many people experience the slowing of time and the descent of a sense of calm. In that state, they are able to make intelligent, quick decisions and avert further disaster. Fear does the opposite. It causes us to make bad decisions and invites further disaster.
As for the statement that most BF are not interested in killing people, it's an obvious fact, to me. BF is all over North America, and all over the planet. I live far from the Pacific Northwest, but they're here. I live in an urban area, and they're here. They're here in large numbers, living right next to us in every conceivable part of the world -- and yet, every night, people come home to their suppers without incident. Every day, children go play in the woods and come back when their mothers call them. If BF had some predisposition to kill humans, none of the witnesses and experiencers who jaw on this forum every day would be moving a muscle. Have some BF killed humans? Obviously so. So, both things are obvious: that some human deaths have been caused by BF, and that the vast, vast majority of BF have no interest in killing anybody.
Which do you choose to emphasize as important? The rarity of BF violence? Maybe you like rare things. That's cool. But if you're looking to expand human knowledge and human experience, you might want to choose to emphasize the thing that has the greater relevance, the greater import, and the greater truth behind it.
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And every (most) perspective is valid, for the individual who holds that perspective. But the question for many of us is, how broadly does that perspective apply? We are trying to tease out the universal from the personal.
It's fine to be afraid of things, if that's what you enjoy. Nobody would take that away from anybody. But it helps to be conscious of the choices we're making. It's a choice to be afraid, not a necessity. (it's not Susi's choice imho but hysteria)
So, that's the piece of information that becomes more universal: that fear is a choice.(not really) Knowing that, being reminded of that, leaves us with more space to consider that we can choose some other feeling with respect to BF.
Not to mention that the facts, the evidence -- the preponderance of it -- shows that most BF are not interested in killing people.(a theory, we don't know what percentage kill humans or if they kill at all....maybe all bigfoots kill 1 human over a life time.....we don't know........maybe 1 or of a 100 engage in killing one human over a life time......we may never know) Again, if most WERE, nobody here talking about their experiences would be able to speak. Or type. Or breathe.